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Anal August has shown us just how much prostate play can reshape pleasure. For chastity wearers, prostate milking is more than curiosity. A focused prostate massage can unlock an orgasm that feels entirely different from the quick release most are used to. Instead of staying in one place, the orgasmic sensations build from deep inside and radiate outward, flooding the whole body with rolling waves of pleasure. For chastity wearers, P-spot stimulation offers release without breaking lock, giving the mind and body a chance to reset while staying in a submissive headspace.  Done right, milking is equal parts technique, patience, and connection. If you are curious how to prostate massage effectively or just want new prostate orgasm tips to add to your routine, these five essentials will help you get started.   1. Build up before the session. The prostate and seminal vesicles continue producing fluid during arousal. Without ejaculation, that buildup creates the fullness that makes a milking session more intense and effective. How long should you build up before prostate milking? Teasing for a few days before a milking makes the session more productive and the sensations more intense. Edging and denial are perfect preparation, especially while locked. 2. Keep arousal high, but don’t climax. On the day of milking, cycle up the edge of climax and back down again a handful of times. The more responsive your body is, the easier it becomes to massage fluid out of the prostate. This approach fits naturally into chastity play where stimulation and frustration already go hand in hand. 3. Find the prostate and start slowly. A well-lubricated finger or a curved sex toy will help you reach the P-spot, a walnut-sized bump just inside the anal canal. Gentle circles and light pressure are best to start. Aneros prostate massagers or smaller wearable plugs from the CB-X Kink Boutique are our top recommendations for P-Spot pleasure seekers. Remember to play safe and always use an anal-approved sex toy with a base.  4. Switch to firmer strokes when ready. Once arousal is high (like, a 9/10), firmer strokes or steady pressure can trigger release. Just know that milking will not result in the traditional orgasm you’re familiar with, but many wearers find it just as satisfying, if not moreso. Tools like the Lovense Edge 2 and the nJoy Pfun Plug deliver targeted stimulation that makes the process easier and more consistent. 5. Aftercare, always!. Prostate milking sessions can be draining (pun very intended), both physically and mentally. Afterward, be sure to check in with yourself or your partner. Discuss what felt great, what may have been uncomfortable, and what you want to try next. For some cooling relief post P-Spot play, apply a small amount of Dr. Tush’s After Butt Play to soothe the bum. Keep it in the fridge for added sensory stimulation. A consistent aftercare routine keeps relationship dynamics healthy and makes every session more rewarding. Adding milking to your chastity routine expands pleasure without breaking out of a cock cage. With the right prep, technique, and prostate toys, it can become one of the most rewarding parts of locked life. We are calling on the CB-X community to share their prostate play experiences with us.Take our CB-X Anal August Prostate Survey here before it closes at Midnight (PST) this Friday August 22. It takes under 2 minutes and you’ll be entered to win the Playboy Pleasures Bring it On Thrusting Anal Plug with Vibrating Ball Cradle, valued at $119! Catch up on all Anal August 2025 content below: CB-X Beginners Guide to Prostate Play How to Unlock More Intense Chastity O’s Best Prostate Toys for Chastity in 2025 Cheeky regards, CB-X

We get tons of questions about prostate play, especially from chastity wearers who've discovered that locked-up pleasure requires some creative problem-solving. This Anal August, we're breaking down everything you need to know about prostate pleasure. Your regular equipment might be out of commission, but your P-spot is ready to step up as the A-player. If you'd rather skip the pep talk and get straight to the butt stuff, browse our curated Anal August 2025 Product Guides to find exactly what you're looking for.  Best Vibrating Prostate Toys for Men Best Non-Vibrating Prostate Toys for Men Pegging Sex Toys for Couples Best Anal Play Toys for Beginners Anal Sex Toys for Sissies Fun and Unique Anal Toys to Putt in Your Butt 1. The Prostate is a Second Pleasure Center (And It’s Way More Powerful Than You Think) Here's something that might blow your mind: the penis glans has around 4,000 highly concentrated nerve endings, making it incredibly sensitive to direct touch. However, the prostate connects to entirely different nerve pathways that can create full-body sensations. What that means: the prostate's connection to the pelvic nerve and hypogastric nerve means it's deeply wired into your body's arousal and orgasm systems in a different way. This creates a fundamentally different type of pleasure. Let that sink in. While penile stimulation is intense and localized, prostate stimulation taps into nerve pathways that can trigger whole-body responses and multiple types of orgasmic sensations. For chastity wearers, this is particularly revolutionary. While traditional penis stimulation might be off-limits, prostate orgasms offer a completely different type of release. Unlike orgasms that typically result in that familiar post-climax crash, prostate orgasms can be multiple, longer-lasting, and won't kill your arousal or submissive energy. Many chastity couples report that prostate play actually enhances their dynamic rather than disrupting it. The locked partner stays engaged, attentive, and eager to please while still experiencing incredible pleasure. It's the best of both worlds: intense satisfaction without losing that focused, submissive headspace that makes chastity play so psychologically compelling. 2. Prostate Orgasms Are Wildly Different Than Traditional Orgasms Here’s the truth that you might not be ready to hear yet: Many men report that once they perfect prostate stimulation, it becomes their preferred method of climax. Male orgasms are often described as more intense, more satisfying, and infinitely more interesting than what they experienced before. If you're expecting prostate orgasms to feel like regular orgasms, prepare to have your expectations completely shattered. Some men describe prostate orgasms as a full-body experience that starts deep in your core and radiates outward. Instead of the quick, intense spike of a traditional orgasm, prostate pleasure builds in waves that can last significantly longer. For couples exploring chastity dynamics, this discovery can be relationship-changing. The locked partner gets to experience incredible pleasure while maintaining that psychological state that makes them attentive and focused on their partner's needs. And – no refractory period means the fun doesn't have to stop. That heightened arousal can continue for hours, or even days. 3. No, You Don’t Need to Be "Into Anal" to Enjoy Prostate Play Here's where we bust the biggest myth about prostate stimulation: you don't need to identify as someone who's "into anal play" to unleash your prostate's pleasure potential. Many men who never considered themselves interested in anal stimulation find that targeted P-Spot massage feels completely different from what they expected. The key difference is intention and technique. Prostate play isn't about penetration for its own sake. It's about accessing a specific area that responds to pressure, vibration, and targeted stimulation. Many prostate toys are designed specifically for this purpose, with ergonomically-curved shapes and targeted vibration patterns that focus on pleasure rather than just penetration. For beginners, focus on external massage before moving to internal stimulation. The prostate can actually be stimulated externally by applying pressure to the perineum (the area between your testicles and anus). This can be a great way to explore these sensations without any penetration at all. Essential Best Practices for Prostate Play Always, always, always mind rule number 1: Invest in proper anal toys. Prostate-specific massagers are designed with the right curves and safety features. Look for toys with flared bases to prevent any unwanted disappearing acts, like the fist-shaped dildon't pictured in an unfortunate X-ray image (photo credit unknown). Try a set of anal beads and work your way up over time.  Never go without lube again! The anal area doesn't self-lubricate, so quality lubricant isn't optional. Silicone-based lubes tend to last longer and provide better cushioning for extended play. However, silicone lube isn't compatible with silicone sex toys, so be sure to use a hybrid lube (water-based + silicone or aloe) if you want the thicker, longer-lasting texture that silicone is known for.  Start slow and communicate constantly. Whether you're flying solo or with a partner, pay attention to your body's responses. What feels good? What doesn't? This type of play requires patience and self-awareness. Don't hold your breath. Seriously - exhale through your mouth for a count of 4-5 during each thrust. Deep exhales help the body relax and loosen up, so focus on your breathing during anal sex to maintain comfort.  Hygiene matters, but don't overthink it. A simple shower and basic cleanliness are usually sufficient. Enemas aren't necessary for most prostate play, especially with smaller toys.  The Bottom Line Do you hear that? Listen closer. It's your prostate, and it's saying "put me in, coach!"  Your prostate has been patiently waiting for an introduction, and Anal August is the perfect reason to finally make its acquaintance. Remember: good things come to those who go deeper. 

Today we are observing one final sex-positive holiday in July to cap the month off with a bang!  Or, in this case, a perfectly ruined one. Thursday, July 31 is National Orgasm Day, a celebration of explosive sexual satisfaction. For the chastity community, this observance hits a little differently. When it comes to chastity orgasms, some say that  chastity"rules" permit orgasms entirely, because "what's the point of being in chastity, then?"  Is it against the rules to have a chastity orgasm?  Depends on who you ask.  We’ve said it once, and we’ll keep saying it until we’re blue in the balls: having a chastity orgasm comes down to personal preference, lifestyle, relationship dynamics, and consent, of course.  For kinky chastity play folks who do include or permit orgasms in their situation or relationship, the approach is often strategic and intentional. All chastity orgasms are not created equal, and understanding the different types can help you explore or discover what works best for your dynamic. How are orgasms different from ejaculation? For male orgasms, there is a difference between orgasms and ejaculation. Orgasms are a result of intense pleasure and pelvic contractions. Otherwise known as the peak of climax and toe-curling release you feel when you come. Ejaculation is purely physical; the expulsion of semen from the penis. What are the different types of orgasms?  Beyond traditional orgasms, chastity enthusiasts explore various types of release including sissygasms (prostate-only orgasms achieved through anal stimulation), forced orgasms (continued stimulation past the point of comfort), nipplegasms (climax achieved through nipple stimulation alone), and ruined orgasms (interrupted climax that leaves you wanting more). Each type of orgasm can serve a different psychological and physical purpose in power exchange dynamics. Enter the ruined orgasm, which can be one of the most powerful tools in a D/s dynamic. What is a ruined orgasm?  In the world of ruined orgasms, the journey outweighs the destination. In a few words, ruined orgasms are typically defined by an unexpected interruption during orgasm. For couples exploring chastity, ruined orgasms offer a fascinating middle ground between complete denial and full release. They're not just about teasing (though there's plenty of that). They're about maintaining that heightened state of arousal that makes chastity play so psychologically compelling.  A ruined orgasm happens when stimulation stops right at the point of no return, allowing ejaculation to occur without the satisfying rush of pleasure. Think of it as your body going through the motions while your brain gets left hanging. The result? Semen release, without the feel-good chemicals that typically flood your system during a full orgasm. The key difference from regular orgasms is what happens next. Instead of feeling satisfied and sleepy, most people remain aroused, frustrated, and ready for more. It's like having dessert that looks perfect but tastes like cardboard. Technically you got what you wanted, but somehow you're left wanting more. What does a ruined orgasm feel like? "Welp, that took the wind out of my sails" might be the most widely-recognized idiom that captures the feeling of a ruined orgasm. Picture yourself sailing toward your destination with wind filling your sails, the anticipation building as you gain momentum with each gust. The refreshing breeze carries you forward, everything aligned perfectly for a smooth arrival at your intended harbor. But then, just as you're approaching the dock with full speed and excitement, the wind suddenly dies. Your sails go slack, your boat loses its power, and instead of the satisfying arrival you were building toward, you're left drifting aimlessly in still water. The momentum that felt so promising just moments before has completely vanished, leaving you stranded somewhere between where you started and where you desperately wanted to be.  That sudden shift from anticipation and building intensity to an abrupt, unsatisfying halt is what defines a ruined orgasm.  What is the difference between a ruined orgasm and edging? Ruined orgasms and edging are two distinct experiences. Edging brings you right to the brink of orgasm (that 9.9 out of 10 feeling) and then backs off completely. No ejaculation, no release. Just pure, concentrated frustration that builds anticipation for next time. Ruined orgasms push past that point of no return but withdraw stimulation just as orgasm begins. Your body completes the physical process, but the mental satisfaction is squashed due to the sudden lack of stimulation. Both serve different purposes in chastity play, and many couples use them in combination to create increasingly intense experiences. "I try to edge myself but keep accidentally ruining orgasms. What should I do?"  Practice edging more, but start further from the edge. Using a 1-10 scale where 10 is orgasm, try staying at a 6 or 7 instead of pushing to 9. As you get better at recognizing the lower levels, you can gradually work closer to the edge. Treat accidental ruins as learning experiences rather than failures, because they're part of the process of developing better control! Why ruin a perfectly good orgasm? The appeal lies in what doesn't happen after. Regular orgasms typically trigger a refractory period where arousal drops and that submissive, attentive energy fades. Ruined orgasms allow for semen release while maintaining that heightened psychological state.  Many couples discover that ruined orgasms can actually intensify horniness and desire rather than satisfy it. Instead of feeling "done," the experience often leaves people more focused on their partner and eager to please. Are ruined orgasms a reward or a punishment? Again, depends on who you ask. Some view ruined orgasms as a reward. They get stimulation and release without losing that aroused energy. Others see them as delicious torture that keeps them focused on their partner. Both perspectives can be right within the same relationship, depending on context and mood. Here are some real-world experiences to broaden your POV: "The ruined orgasms took the edge off how horny he was, but he was still quite horny and had a very satisfying orgasm hours after his ruined orgasm. So, for us, it's not a reward or a punishment. It's an appetizer." "I think it's silly to pretend that there are 'technicalities' here. It is simply a question of the sub's response and perception. I fetishized ruins and would perceive them as a sort of punishment, but it's a punishment that I crave if it allows me to serve the Dom's cruelty more. I know a sub who was ruined after a long session and almost had a mental breakdown as a result. Master later told me that was a harsh punishment for his sub, and he wouldn’t take it so lightly next time. Dom must simply remain aware." "For me they are both rewards. I love to be edged by her or by me. To be constantly horny and aroused is the best. The ruined orgasm is just to release fluids that will come out at awkward times, but still keep me horny and complacent." "Ruining an O is much more detrimental to me personally so it's more of a punishment. Edging is the best! I want her to play with me all the time, and if she never lets me O, then I am staying up and active constantly. It is a win win for me. Short Version: Edging = Reward, Ruin = Punishment with a reward to get there." General tips for ruined orgasms Prioritize communication & consent. Establish boundaries and clear signals or safe words in advance. The sub should be able to communicate their arousal level on a 1-10 scale. Timing takes practice. Don't worry about "ruining the ruin." Remember this: try first, fail second, learn third.  Some find that using numbing agents like penis desensitizing sprays can help with delay and timing.  Three ways to ruin a sub's orgasm 1: Manual hand stimulation only. Sit on your partner's stomach, reverse cowgirl style, and keep him in a flat, laying position. Tease his balls one by one, then start incorporating the penis. Body language is everything. The more he starts to move, the closer he might be to climax. Abruptly stop when he says he's about to cum and enjoy the pathetic dribble. For added humiliation, make him eat his cum from the bed and his cage.  2: Get behind your sub and get close to his body. Start with a wand vibrator on the penis tip only while pegging with an anal dildo from behind. When he comes close, remove the vibration but keep pounding until he starts to ejaculate out of his locked, non-erect cock. Keep penetrating him with the dildo to force out another dribble or four. You'll notice a lil' squirt with every thrust.  3: One couple plays an intense guessing game where the sub is let out of chastity for lengthy tease sessions. The Dom has mastered the line between edging and ruined orgasms so precisely that the sub often can't tell which occurred. Blindfolded and restrained, the sub must guess whether they were edged or ruined after each session. Edge guess correct: game continues.  Edge guess incorrect: punishment involves a full orgasm directly into their mouth, then back to the cage. Ruin guess correct: reward of a full orgasm in their preferred method. Ruin guess incorrect: must consume the ruined orgasm, game over, back to chastity.  To run or not to ruin an orgasm?  There's no universal playbook for chastity dynamics, and frankly, that's the point! What drives one person crazy might bore the next person to tears. The real pleasure often comes from surrendering that control, whether you've locked yourself up or handed the keys to someone else who gets to decide your fate. Happy National Orgasm Day to the CB-X chastity community. May the (sweet, sweet) misery be with you.

This Thursday, July 24th marks both International BDSM Day and FemDom Day, two cherished observances in the kink community that celebrate consensual power exchange in relationships. We get it, though. “BDSM” and “Female Led [Anything]” might sound intimidating to couples and individuals who consider themselves “vanilla,” or *gasp* – “normal”.  News flash! “Normal” is a myth! The truth is that many couples already practice elements of female-led dynamics without even realizing it. You included.  At CB-X, this topic hits close to home. Our very first chastity device, the CB-2000, was created by our original Founders, Frank and Dorris Miller. Back in 1998, the Millers were a married couple dealing with infidelity, and Doris had one condition for reconciliation: Frank would consensually agree to lock himself in a chastity cage. At the time, they had no knowledge of FLR communities or kink culture. They simply needed a unique solution to rebuild broken trust. What they created not only saved their marriage but became the foundation of what is now the world's best-selling chastity brand. (Hey! That’s us!) Now, first things first… What Is a Female Led Relationship? A Female Led Relationship (FLR) is simply a partnership where one partner takes the lead in decision-making and relationship dynamics. This isn't about domination or control. It’s about consensual power exchange that benefits both people. Think of it as redistributing responsibilities in a way that plays to each partner's strengths and desires. And for many couples, chastity play is a creative way to incorporate gamification into the relationship.  For couples exploring chastity, FLR often emerges naturally. When one partner holds the key, they often inherently take on a leadership role in the couple's intimate life. Why FLR Can Transform Your Relationship Real couples often report remarkable changes shortly after exploring the FLR dynamic. Partners often become more attentive, focused, and genuinely invested in their relationship. Instead of taking each other for granted, renewed appreciation and effort emerge. Many also discover that their relationship roles (AKA "traditional" gender roles) weren't actually serving them well. When one partner steps into a leadership role, it can eliminate decision fatigue, reduce conflicts, and create clearer expectations. The key-holding partner often reports feeling more desired and prioritized than they have in years. True Story #1:  "I was curious but reluctant at the beginning, being raised and educated in what was regarded as 'the traditional way' things should be. To his credit, he eased me gracefully and patiently into it. More importantly, he has proven to me how this benefits me while making him a better husband. I can say for both of us, things have never been better--better communication, sexual expression, intimacy, and so much more." 5 Tips for FLR/Female Led Relationship Beginners  Re-think your intentions. Don't approach this as "here's what I want." Frame it as "here's how this could benefit us both." Focus on improved communication, increased intimacy, and renewed focus on your partner's needs. Begin with mental commitment. Before introducing a chastity device, try "mental chastity" with no self-touching without permission. (Mental chastity means agreeing to abstain from self-pleasure based on honor and communication rather than physical barriers like a cock cage. This helps both partners understand the psychological shifts without added complexity.) Address the "hassle" factor. Some partners worry about the responsibility of key-holding. Emphasize that this isn't about creating more work; it's about having more control with less effort. "Lock it and forget it" until you decide otherwise.  Focus on mutual benefits. This isn't about one person serving another; it's about creating a dynamic where both partners get what they need. Increased attention, better communication, and enhanced intimacy benefit everyone involved. Remember - wearing a chastity cage is an amazing way to discover new penis pleasure techniques.  Small steps > drastic changes. Begin with short periods and simple agreements. Success builds confidence for both partners. Remember, you're establishing new patterns that need time to develop naturally. True story #2:  "My wife was unsure at first. We tried it for about 3 months. She wanted to stop because she felt it was too much work for her. I told her that she doesn't have to do more work. It's less. Lock it up until you want it. Just lock it and forget it. But we still took a few months break. After thinking about it and she noticing the difference in my behavior, we are back into chastity with much enthusiasm on both our parts." Your Relationship = Your Rules What works for one couple might not work for another, and that's perfectly acceptable. (Notice how we avoided the word normal there?) 😉 Couples who thrive with FLR dynamics share one thing in common: they communicate openly and adjust their approach based on what actually improves their relationship. As the saying goes, don't knock it until you've tried it. Jumping into BDSM play doesn't have to be an end goal. (But if it is, we've got your back.)  After all, someone once had to be the first person brave enough to try escargot, and look how that turned out for French cuisine. Just like Frank and Doris Miller discovered, even “vanilla” couples can find that a dash of spice and a pinch of creativity can reinvent or reinvigorate a relationship.  Your relationship deserves the same spirit of adventure. 

Let’s talk about oral sex, baby! Some penis owners choose chastity because they know one truth: their partner’s pleasure matters. A chastity cage can be a tool to shift focus away from chasing your own orgasm, and towards becoming the kind of lover who leaves their partner soaked and satisfied. If you’re locked, your tongue and lips might just be your biggest assets.  Here are five tips for going down on a vulva that might just earn you some extra teasing… or maybe even the key to your cock cage.  1. Being Present > Goal Oriented Oral sex isn’t a race to an orgasm. It’s about the journey, the slow build, and the signals a vulva owner sends back. Don’t zero in on the clit like it’s the only destination worth visiting. Trace the entire landscape like the inner thighs, labia, and lower belly. Notice how your partner’s breath changes, how hips shift, or how moans deepen. The beauty of it: chastity can sharpen this attentiveness, because you’re less distracted by your own need to finish fast. 2. Work with Rhythm and Pressure The clitoris is sensitive territory. Too rough, too soon, and you’ll end up causing discomfort instead of bliss. Start light and build gradually. Find a rhythm that syncs with your partner’s reactions. Consistency can be more effective than wild improvisation. If you find something that’s working, keep doing it! Don’t switch it up when their body language and vocals kick into overdrive. That’s one way to earn a frustrated push away instead of a toe-curling climax! 3. Get Comfortable With Wetness Spit is your friend. So is natural lubrication. If you’re locked and devoted to serving your partner, embracing wetness is a non-negotiable. Keep your lips, tongue, and fingers slick so everything glides instead of drags. A dry tongue on a clit? That’s a one-way ticket to “Please stop.” 4. Hands + Mouth…Not Just Mouth Oral doesn’t mean you can’t use your hands. In fact, your fingers might be the backup singers that push the whole performance into chart-topping territory. Gently explore the entrance of the vagina or stroking the inner labia. For those who enjoy penetration, the “come-hither” motion with two fingers on the G-spot paired with clit stimulation can be mind-blowing. Reminder to check in about what feels good. 5. Let Her Lead the Way Some vulva owners want to guide the pace, the pressure, or even the angle of your tongue. Let them! Chastity play is rooted in surrender and giving up control, and that energy transfer can create electric oral sex sessions. Let your partner ride your face if that’s what they want. Let them tell you to go slower, faster, softer, or harder. Nothing signals devotion like following instructions and craving to please.  Oral sex is a playground for a locked penis owner. When your own release is off-limits, you’re free to tune in fully to your partner’s body and responses. Take pride in making her orgasm the highlight of the night (or the day), and you might just find that your chastity cage feels less like a prison and more like a crown. Now go forth. Tongue first.

June 9th marks National Sex Day, a celebration that began in Brazil in the 1980s and has since spread worldwide as a day to embrace intimate connection. While this holiday encourages open conversations about pleasure and sexuality, we're focusing on something a little more specific.  When it comes to couples' chastity play, there are no “rules” as to what it needs to be. As long as it’s consensual, of course. So does “sex” go in the same sentence as “chastity”? Maybe. Maybe not. The only thing that matters is if it feels fun/good/hot/thrilling/fulfilling to you. This blog shares tips from chastity couples to other couples who have moved beyond curiosity into actual practice, and the different ways they use chastity as an intimacy enhancer, catalyst for connection, or as a substitute for sex. Don’t forget to explore CB-X premium chastity kits and accessories designed for couples who are serious about power exchange! Chastity Sex Tip #1: Reframe control as a mutual benefit. "My husband found out about chastity and suggested to try it out as it might be a perfect scenario for us: I could limit sexual activity if I'm not in the mood, while for him it could still feel good because for him it's like a prolonged type of foreplay, at least if I also like the idea." Chastity Sex Tip #2: Create an orgasm economy. "Orgasm trading. For every 30 orgasms he gives you, he earns 1 ruined orgasm. For every 60 orgasms he gives you, he will get a proper one. That’s how we do it! 30:1 & 60:1." Chastity Sex Tip #3: Redefine what “sex” means to both of you.  "My spouse and I had sex in my truck last night. She sat in the passenger seat with the Magic Wand plugged into the outlet, and gave herself a big orgasm, moaning and moaning… while I was driving, with my chastity cage secure, and my pants up. My part was to reach over and support the vibe and put more pressure on her clit as she was about to lose her grip from the orgasm she was experiencing. She said that this is the best kind of sex we have now. She orgasms, and I'm only allowed to leak in my cage. I absolutely love this new dynamic." Chastity Sex Tip #4: Make daily connection non-negotiable. "Once we started playing with chastity, our sexual activities changed a lot (obviously). I can’t stress enough how important it is for us to do something sexual every day. Yes, I know this might sound like a lot of work, or counterintuitive, but it changed everything for us! Just plan a little bit of mutual sexual activity like kissing or genital massage, and you will find it becomes very easy to make the locked partner happy. And that helped us serve our chastity purpose initially, as well. Now, he gets what he gets and he has to be happy about it. Much less stress for both of us (except for the good type of sexual tension).  Chastity Sex Tip #5: Small gestures = big impact. "In my relationship, my Keyholder (wife) and I choose one simple task every day, and add an element of sex to it, without actually having sex. One example: we watch TV together every evening, and she simply leaves her hand on my cage without any movement. This is effortless, and makes both of us feel connected. Plus, these tasks can take less than two minutes some days. You can get as creative as you’d like. The rules are defined by you and only you…that’s what makes it so special.” It’s All About the Foundation! If you're not yet exploring chastity but considering it, remember that successful kink requires a solid foundation. Focus on your vanilla sex first—learning about each other's bodies, mastering hand and oral techniques, and building genuine sexual communication. Once you've elevated your baseline intimacy, you'll have the security needed to explore power exchange dynamics successfully. For those already locked up, these real-world strategies from experienced couples can help you align sexually even more deeply. The key is consistency, creativity, and remembering that the best chastity dynamics serve both partners' needs.

Here are ten ways to cum in a chastity device, straight from the chastity community!