Let’s talk about oral sex, baby!
Some penis owners choose chastity because they know one truth: their partner’s pleasure matters. A chastity cage can be a tool to shift focus away from chasing your own orgasm, and towards becoming the kind of lover who leaves their partner soaked and satisfied. If you’re locked, your tongue and lips might just be your biggest assets.
Here are five tips for going down on a vulva that might just earn you some extra teasing… or maybe even the key to your cock cage.
1. Being Present > Goal Oriented
Oral sex isn’t a race to an orgasm. It’s about the journey, the slow build, and the signals a vulva owner sends back. Don’t zero in on the clit like it’s the only destination worth visiting. Trace the entire landscape like the inner thighs, labia, and lower belly. Notice how your partner’s breath changes, how hips shift, or how moans deepen. The beauty of it: chastity can sharpen this attentiveness, because you’re less distracted by your own need to finish fast.
2. Work with Rhythm and Pressure
The clitoris is sensitive territory. Too rough, too soon, and you’ll end up causing discomfort instead of bliss. Start light and build gradually. Find a rhythm that syncs with your partner’s reactions. Consistency can be more effective than wild improvisation. If you find something that’s working, keep doing it! Don’t switch it up when their body language and vocals kick into overdrive. That’s one way to earn a frustrated push away instead of a toe-curling climax!
3. Get Comfortable With Wetness
Spit is your friend. So is natural lubrication. If you’re locked and devoted to serving your partner, embracing wetness is a non-negotiable. Keep your lips, tongue, and fingers slick so everything glides instead of drags. A dry tongue on a clit? That’s a one-way ticket to “Please stop.”
4. Hands + Mouth…Not Just Mouth
Oral doesn’t mean you can’t use your hands. In fact, your fingers might be the backup singers that push the whole performance into chart-topping territory. Gently explore the entrance of the vagina or stroking the inner labia. For those who enjoy penetration, the “come-hither” motion with two fingers on the G-spot paired with clit stimulation can be mind-blowing. Reminder to check in about what feels good.
5. Let Her Lead the Way
Some vulva owners want to guide the pace, the pressure, or even the angle of your tongue. Let them! Chastity play is rooted in surrender and giving up control, and that energy transfer can create electric oral sex sessions. Let your partner ride your face if that’s what they want. Let them tell you to go slower, faster, softer, or harder. Nothing signals devotion like following instructions and craving to please.
Oral sex is a playground for a locked penis owner. When your own release is off-limits, you’re free to tune in fully to your partner’s body and responses. Take pride in making her orgasm the highlight of the night (or the day), and you might just find that your chastity cage feels less like a prison and more like a crown.
Now go forth. Tongue first.
