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Forget Hallmark Holidays. National Kink Day is here on October 6! This year feels especially relevant for CB-X and our community because of a major reveal about kinky preferences across the United States. Earlier this year, Clips4Sale released its 2025 Fetish of the Year report. If you’re new to the name, Clips4Sale is an adult clip marketplace where independent creators sell kink and fetish content to audiences worldwide. They’ve been a major pay site in the industry since 2003, long before free tube sites like PornHub reshaped adult video consumption.  Side note! Before we dive into the C4S insights, let’s clarify kink v. fetish terminology. People often use “kink” and “fetish” like they mean the same thing, but they’re different. In this blog, we will stick to “fetish” since that’s the word Clips4Sale used in their findings. What’s the Difference Between a Kink and a Fetish? A Kinkster Explains “A kink is a turn on that is typically ‘out of the ordinary’ that enhances sexual pleasure. A fetish turns you on regardless of context. I have a kink for feet because, for me, pretty feet make a girl hotter. I don't have a fetish because I don't get turned on just by seeing feet and I don't ever find women attractive solely because they have pretty feet (pun intended).” (All semantics aside, our kink = transforming numbers into narratives. If data makes you horny, too, browse a huge catalog of various PornHub Insights or C4S’ recap of how online sex has changed the world over 20 years.) From Niche to Numero Uno If you guessed chastity was the big winner, give yourself a gold star! Out of all the leather, latex, feet, and rope devotees, chastity snapped the lock as the Top Fetish of 2025! For context, PornHub Insights has shown Hentai holding the crown as the most-searched keyword in recent years. However, as an adult content paysite (not a tube site), C4S’s data offers a different lens by highlighting the p0rn clips that people are actually buying. And that’s where things get interesting. At first glance, the results might surprise people outside of the kink community. Chastity has been considered a deep-cut kink, tucked away in the corners of online forums and sex toy shops for a long time.  Chastity emerging from the dungeon and into the daylight? We love to see it. Worried chastity might lose its edge because it’s trending upward? Nah. It’s less like a bandwagon and more like your favorite indie band finally getting the recognition they deserve.  Silver & Bronze The two runners-up: cuckold and gooning. Cuckold play continues to draw attention for the way it blends voyeurism and power dynamics, which resonate across mainstream porn and personal relationships. Gooning has exploded in popularity over the last few years, moving from niche forums into the larger kink conversation. Its focus on edging, trance-like states, and obsession with porn consumption has created a subculture all its own, reflecting how far people are willing to push the boundaries of arousal and control. The United States of Fetish Clips4Sale also compiled the highest-searched fetishes on their porn clips across the U.S. in its "Fetish Map of the United States". We see you, Nebraska!  More Kinky Data: Clips4Sale’s 2025 “United States of Fetish” Map - a separate report that revealed the most searched-for fetishes in each U.S. state. Variety is...the Whole Point What we learned from the findings: more people are leaning into the dynamic power exchange of lock-and-key play. A chastity device is a symbol; chastity play is an act of surrender, discipline, and erotic curiosity all rolled into one. And when you think about it like that, it’s no wonder chastity is having a mainstream moment.  Celebrating National Kink Day means shining a light on the spectrum of interests that make up kink culture. Some gravitate toward high-gloss latex and rope suspensions, others to roleplay or spanking. And now we know there’s a growing wave of people who’d rather click a lock shut and see what happens when orgasm isn’t the end goal.  Curiosity wins, discovery wins, acceptance wins. National Kink Day in a nutshell, y'all. Embrace your Kinky side and enjoy 15% off any products from the CB-X Kink Boutique! Use code 2025KINKDAYDISCOUNT at checkout to unlock your exclusive discount. (offer valid 10/6 - 10/10/2025)

This Thursday, July 24th marks both International BDSM Day and FemDom Day, two cherished observances in the kink community that celebrate consensual power exchange in relationships. We get it, though. “BDSM” and “Female Led [Anything]” might sound intimidating to couples and individuals who consider themselves “vanilla,” or *gasp* – “normal”.  News flash! “Normal” is a myth! The truth is that many couples already practice elements of female-led dynamics without even realizing it. You included.  At CB-X, this topic hits close to home. Our very first chastity device, the CB-2000, was created by our original Founders, Frank and Dorris Miller. Back in 1998, the Millers were a married couple dealing with infidelity, and Doris had one condition for reconciliation: Frank would consensually agree to lock himself in a chastity cage. At the time, they had no knowledge of FLR communities or kink culture. They simply needed a unique solution to rebuild broken trust. What they created not only saved their marriage but became the foundation of what is now the world's best-selling chastity brand. (Hey! That’s us!) Now, first things first… What Is a Female Led Relationship? A Female Led Relationship (FLR) is simply a partnership where one partner takes the lead in decision-making and relationship dynamics. This isn't about domination or control. It’s about consensual power exchange that benefits both people. Think of it as redistributing responsibilities in a way that plays to each partner's strengths and desires. And for many couples, chastity play is a creative way to incorporate gamification into the relationship.  For couples exploring chastity, FLR often emerges naturally. When one partner holds the key, they often inherently take on a leadership role in the couple's intimate life. Why FLR Can Transform Your Relationship Real couples often report remarkable changes shortly after exploring the FLR dynamic. Partners often become more attentive, focused, and genuinely invested in their relationship. Instead of taking each other for granted, renewed appreciation and effort emerge. Many also discover that their relationship roles (AKA "traditional" gender roles) weren't actually serving them well. When one partner steps into a leadership role, it can eliminate decision fatigue, reduce conflicts, and create clearer expectations. The key-holding partner often reports feeling more desired and prioritized than they have in years. True Story #1:  "I was curious but reluctant at the beginning, being raised and educated in what was regarded as 'the traditional way' things should be. To his credit, he eased me gracefully and patiently into it. More importantly, he has proven to me how this benefits me while making him a better husband. I can say for both of us, things have never been better--better communication, sexual expression, intimacy, and so much more." 5 Tips for FLR/Female Led Relationship Beginners  Re-think your intentions. Don't approach this as "here's what I want." Frame it as "here's how this could benefit us both." Focus on improved communication, increased intimacy, and renewed focus on your partner's needs. Begin with mental commitment. Before introducing a chastity device, try "mental chastity" with no self-touching without permission. (Mental chastity means agreeing to abstain from self-pleasure based on honor and communication rather than physical barriers like a cock cage. This helps both partners understand the psychological shifts without added complexity.) Address the "hassle" factor. Some partners worry about the responsibility of key-holding. Emphasize that this isn't about creating more work; it's about having more control with less effort. "Lock it and forget it" until you decide otherwise.  Focus on mutual benefits. This isn't about one person serving another; it's about creating a dynamic where both partners get what they need. Increased attention, better communication, and enhanced intimacy benefit everyone involved. Remember - wearing a chastity cage is an amazing way to discover new penis pleasure techniques.  Small steps > drastic changes. Begin with short periods and simple agreements. Success builds confidence for both partners. Remember, you're establishing new patterns that need time to develop naturally. True story #2:  "My wife was unsure at first. We tried it for about 3 months. She wanted to stop because she felt it was too much work for her. I told her that she doesn't have to do more work. It's less. Lock it up until you want it. Just lock it and forget it. But we still took a few months break. After thinking about it and she noticing the difference in my behavior, we are back into chastity with much enthusiasm on both our parts." Your Relationship = Your Rules What works for one couple might not work for another, and that's perfectly acceptable. (Notice how we avoided the word normal there?) 😉 Couples who thrive with FLR dynamics share one thing in common: they communicate openly and adjust their approach based on what actually improves their relationship. As the saying goes, don't knock it until you've tried it. Jumping into BDSM play doesn't have to be an end goal. (But if it is, we've got your back.)  After all, someone once had to be the first person brave enough to try escargot, and look how that turned out for French cuisine. Just like Frank and Doris Miller discovered, even “vanilla” couples can find that a dash of spice and a pinch of creativity can reinvent or reinvigorate a relationship.  Your relationship deserves the same spirit of adventure. 

Color has been a long-standing language among kinksters for decades. Sometimes subliminal, sometimes more obvious, wearing specific colors in the kink community can speak directly to aspects of one's sexual preferences, desires, and even nuanced power dynamics.

Sissification encompasses a wide range of fantasies and lifestyle activities that often involve role-playing, power dynamics, and sometimes, humiliation.

The bottom line is that, if you’re going to purchase a cock cage and begin male chastity training, he must have a safeword.