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Fantasy role play isn’t a new niche, but it wasn’t until the last five-ish years that fantasy sex toys exploded in popularity. Fantasy play is adjacent to pet play (like BDSM puppy training or kinky pony play). If you’ve ever wanted to explore your wilder instincts, fantasy sex toys transform imagination into a tactile, sensory experience. They incorporate psychological thrill, visual drama and anatomical surprise (and they feel as wild as they look).  Chastity and fantasy play go together like curiosity and temptation, because they both thrive on imagination and control. We think that fantasy role play is a perfect accomplice to chastity play, because it focuses on creative possibilities versus what you can’t do. It’s a path to channel arousal, build tension, and turn delayed gratification into a full story instead of just a waiting game. Why Are Fantasy Sex Toys So Popular in 2025? Fantasy and sexuality overlap because they both revolve around self-expression, creativity, and curiosity. Those looking to get intimate with a specific creature, monster, villain, or alien lover can get as close to their personal fantasy as possible. For those who might feel apprehensive about acting on a specific wild fantasy because it feels "weird" or too dark: are you familiar with Rule 34? [[[Insert your wildest fantasy or intrusive thought here.]]] Rule 34 suggests that “If it exists, there’s porn of it. No exceptions.” It originated from early 2000s internet culture and became shorthand for the idea that any topic, character, or concept - no matter how obscure or outlandish - has some form of erotic content made about it online. Clearly the same concept applies for fantasy pleasure products. Looking at you, caterpillar and jellyfish fetishists. 😘 Isn’t it a wonderful thing, to be seen?  Here’s our theory: escapism is one of the quickest & easiest routes to temporarily forget about the horrors of #adulting. Add ethereal colors, nostalgia or childlike wonder, and you’ve got a winner.  What Are the Most Popular Fantasy Sex Toys in 2025? 1: Tentacle Fantasy Pictured: Pink Glass Textured Tentacle Dildo Why would someone want to use a tentacle sex toy? Tentacle fantasies often tap into themes of curiosity, transformation, and power exchange. Not necessarily monsters, but the thrill of being explored by something otherworldly. Tentacles lean into sensation, imagination, and letting go of control in a safe, consensual way (as opposed to fear). Tentacle dildos have been the best-selling fantasy toys that product makers are branching out with other designs like wand vibrators with tentacles, or vibrating tentacle tickler for external stimulation. 2: Sci-Fi / Alien Fantasy Pictured: Nymphiid Ovipositor Silicone Dildo with Alien Eggs Let us preface this by saying that we never imagined ourselves educating the masses about tentacle sex and alien ovipositor dildos, but here we are. (We’re not mad at it.) What is an Ovipositor Dildo? It’s a fantasy sex toy designed to mimic the act of laying or “implanting” eggs, often using soft, body-safe gelatin or silicone eggs that can be inserted and released. It’s an imaginative extension of fantasy play that emphasizes control and surrender. The appeal of alien fantasies stem from the curiosity to explore contact with the unknown, and what happens when pleasure intersects with an otherworldly/extraterrestrial being. Alien role play combines science fiction and sensuality, which can inspire folks to re-write the boundaries of desire through imagination, and sensory exploration. 3: Monster Fantasy Pictured: 6" Metallic Dragon Textured Glass Dildo Monster fantasies are rooted in the same creative curiosity, but with a darker, more primal energy. They tap into the tension between danger and desire, fear and fascination. A horror or monster fantasy explores themes of power, transformation, and surrendering to something bigger than you. From werewolves to sea monsters, monster sex toys embody raw intensity and untamed pleasure, inviting the user to explore instincts that feel “forbidden,” and ultra erotic. 4: Mythical Creature Fantasy Pictured: 8.5" Unicorn Tongue Glow-in-the-Dark Fantasy Dildo Mythical creature fantasies intertwine magic, power, and desire. They invite you to imagine pleasure that defies human limits, like the intensity of a dragon, the elusiveness of the kraken, and the allure of a unicorn. These unique fantasies rely on the worlds they represent, and transcendence beyond the ordinary. It’s escapism at its most sensual, where fantasy and flesh meet somewhere between legend and lust. Honorable Mention: Sensory Play Pictured: Brat Sensory Claws Incorporating sensory play like temperature shifts or textured sensations (think heat, ice, smooth glass, or metal) adds physical depth to fantasy role play. Pleasure and sensory contrast keep the experience dynamic and immersive while grounding fantasy in real, tangible feelings. Try a Sensory Roller for temperature play, or Vampire Gloves for a mix of tingling precision and intensity, then switch to the Double-Sided Furry Spiked Hand Mitt or to play with contrast. Soft versus sharp, teasing versus torment. Your Curiosity Led You Here. The realm of fantasy pleasure products extends an open invitation to explore sexual experimentation and self expression in unique, creative ways. You don’t need a costume or a convention, just curiosity, creativity, and an item that gives your fantasy a heartbeat.

Halloween costumes don't have to end up in the back of your closet on November 1st! The right bondage accessories do double duty: they add a subtle nod to the lifestyle for those in the community by working as legitimate kink tools in the bedroom and holding up long-term, whether you're hitting a Halloween party or living that kinky life 365 days a year. 1: Lingerie  Yeah, it’s the lowest-hanging fruit, but for good reason! Lingerie walks the line between costume and kink better than almost any other type of clothing or costume accessory. Sexy apparel is versatile enough to make a statement in public, and practical to wear during intimate situations or bondage scenes. Elements like PVC, fishnet, mesh, or lace brings “oomph” to any outfit effortlessly. The best part: you can dress it up or dress it down, keep it minimal, or go balls to the wall from head to toe. 🔥 Ultimately, lingerie makes it easy to channel a specific character, persona or archetype for just about any costume look. And if you just want a quick boost of confidence, the right piece of sexy apparel can transform the way you move through a room.  Lingerie Recommendation #1 Dreamgirl Sheer Lace-Up Garter Dress with Thigh Highs Costume Ideas Frank-N-Furter, Rocky Horror Picture Show | Pair it with: a thicc pearl necklace, platform heels, lace-up gloves, a curly black wig, and a smoky eye. (A black lace garter belt with thigh-highs works as an alternative, too.) Kinky Morticia Addams, The Addams Family | Pair it with: black stilettos, deep burgundy lipstick, and a chain-link cock leash for your sub, and fuzzy sensory play cuffs Hedwig & the Angry Inch | Pair it with: glitter platform boots, a cropped denim jacket, denim cutoffs, teased hair, classic black leather cuffs, fishnets, and a red lip Lingerie Recommendation #2 Magic Silk Pink Kink Ultra Mini Skirt and Chest Harness Set Costume Ideas Sissy Slut | Pair it with: a rose gold collar with attached nipple clamps, pink glitter male chastity cage, pink chastity jingle bell charm, open-back lace panties, pink nail polish, and a pink locking collar  Skimpy Regina George, Mean Girls | Pair it with: a pink cropped jacket, BRAT choker, a Princess Bag makeup pouch, and fuzzy pink heels Dominatrix Barbie | Pair it with: white or pink patent leather boots, hot pink thigh-highs, oversized pink sunglasses, and a femme riding crop (its giving Barbie Dreamhouse Dungeon vibes.) 2: Bondage Restraints Collars (leash optional) are the ultimate crossover Halloween costume accessory. In the bedroom, they're an essential component of power exchange. A good collar sits at the intersection of conspicuous and wearable, which is exactly what you want in a bondage accessory to wear when Halloween festivities are over. Plus, the psychological weight of wearing a collar (or holding a leash) doesn't need a special occasion. Bondage Restraints Recommendation Hello Sexy! Hot Bitch Iridescent BDSM Collar + Leash Costume Ideas Jules Vaughn, Euphoria | Pair it with: Sheer pastel mesh top or sparkly bralette, iridescent mini skirt or lace shorts, glitter eyeliner, pink platform boots Club Brat / Fashion Sub | Pair it with: Platform boots, glitter gloss (for hair or body), messy hair Y2K Pop Princess (Britney & Xtina Era) | Pair it with: Metallic bodysuit, low-rise jeans or rhinestone mini skirt, frosted makeup, crimped hair, pink-tinted sunglasses Honorable Mentions: Queen of Hearts: Heart Day Collar and Red Heart Handcuffs Marie Antoinette: Peaches 'N Creame Faux Fur-Lined BDSM Collar & Rose Gold Leash The Craft / Witchy Goth or Vampire: Sex & Mischief Ex's & Oh's Crystal BDSM Choker with Lock 3: Women's Chastity Belts Chastity belts make a statement. They're impossible to ignore, whether worn over clothing as part of a costume or underneath as your little secret. For Halloween, they fit perfectly into warrior, post-apocalyptic, or Dom/me aesthetics. After the party, they're still functional gear.  Chastity Belt Recommendation  Deluxe Leather Locking Chastity Belt for Women Costume Ideas Mad Max / Furiosa (Post-Apocalyptic Rebel) | Pair it with: black combat boots, metal accessories, dirt-smeared makeup, and fingerless gloves Submissive Squire | Pair it with: linen tunic, leather boots, cock & ball splitter Tank Girl | Pair it with: distressed denim cutoffs or a combat kilt, military helmet with graffiti or stickers, and a black lace bra 4: Bondage Hoods & Masks Hoods are next-level costume material. They're dramatic, they're unmistakable, and they immediately signal what kind of party you're at. Pup hoods especially work for any character that involves transformation or animalistic energy. Wear it for the aesthetic, keep it for the play. Bondage Hood Recommendation  Locking Lace-Up Vegan Leather Dog Hood Mask Costume Ideas The Gimp, Pulp Fiction | Pair it with: Collar with D-ring or chain leash, black leather jacket, studded accessories, combat boots, ballgag Puppy-In-Training | Pair it with: A collar-and-leash combo, knee pads, and/or puppy tail butt plug Scooby Doo (But Make it Kinky) | Pair it with: Brown or tan clothing base (onesie, joggers, or cutoff tee), a blue bondage collar (you can find an “SD” tag on Etsy), and a box of “Scooby Snacks” for comedic commitment. Check out alternative BDSM puppy play accessories here. Bondage Mask Recommendation Half-Face Vegan Leather Bunny Mask Costume Ideas Dark Playboy | Pair it With: Black suit jacket (no top) or an open dress shirt, black bow tie, bunny tail butt plug, combat boots Donnie Darko | Pair it With: Gray hoodie or ripped black hoodie, dark jeans and boots Black Wonderland Bunny | Pair it With: Victorian-style vest, tailcoat or lace shirt, pocket watch, wire-rimmed glasses, and a red leashed collar (so you don’t get lost down the rabbit hole) Bondage gear might be built for the bedroom, but it doesn't have to stay there. With the right styling it’s street legal, dungeon approved, and Halloween perfection. Spirit Halloween could never.

Forget Hallmark Holidays. National Kink Day is here on October 6! This year feels especially relevant for CB-X and our community because of a major reveal about kinky preferences across the United States. Earlier this year, Clips4Sale released its 2025 Fetish of the Year report. If you’re new to the name, Clips4Sale is an adult clip marketplace where independent creators sell kink and fetish content to audiences worldwide. They’ve been a major pay site in the industry since 2003, long before free tube sites like PornHub reshaped adult video consumption.  Side note! Before we dive into the C4S insights, let’s clarify kink v. fetish terminology. People often use “kink” and “fetish” like they mean the same thing, but they’re different. In this blog, we will stick to “fetish” since that’s the word Clips4Sale used in their findings. What’s the Difference Between a Kink and a Fetish? A Kinkster Explains “A kink is a turn on that is typically ‘out of the ordinary’ that enhances sexual pleasure. A fetish turns you on regardless of context. I have a kink for feet because, for me, pretty feet make a girl hotter. I don't have a fetish because I don't get turned on just by seeing feet and I don't ever find women attractive solely because they have pretty feet (pun intended).” (All semantics aside, our kink = transforming numbers into narratives. If data makes you horny, too, browse a huge catalog of various PornHub Insights or C4S’ recap of how online sex has changed the world over 20 years.) From Niche to Numero Uno If you guessed chastity was the big winner, give yourself a gold star! Out of all the leather, latex, feet, and rope devotees, chastity snapped the lock as the Top Fetish of 2025! For context, PornHub Insights has shown Hentai holding the crown as the most-searched keyword in recent years. However, as an adult content paysite (not a tube site), C4S’s data offers a different lens by highlighting the p0rn clips that people are actually buying. And that’s where things get interesting. At first glance, the results might surprise people outside of the kink community. Chastity has been considered a deep-cut kink, tucked away in the corners of online forums and sex toy shops for a long time.  Chastity emerging from the dungeon and into the daylight? We love to see it. Worried chastity might lose its edge because it’s trending upward? Nah. It’s less like a bandwagon and more like your favorite indie band finally getting the recognition they deserve.  Silver & Bronze The two runners-up: cuckold and gooning. Cuckold play continues to draw attention for the way it blends voyeurism and power dynamics, which resonate across mainstream porn and personal relationships. Gooning has exploded in popularity over the last few years, moving from niche forums into the larger kink conversation. Its focus on edging, trance-like states, and obsession with porn consumption has created a subculture all its own, reflecting how far people are willing to push the boundaries of arousal and control. The United States of Fetish Clips4Sale also compiled the highest-searched fetishes on their porn clips across the U.S. in its "Fetish Map of the United States". We see you, Nebraska!  More Kinky Data: Clips4Sale’s 2025 “United States of Fetish” Map - a separate report that revealed the most searched-for fetishes in each U.S. state. Variety is...the Whole Point What we learned from the findings: more people are leaning into the dynamic power exchange of lock-and-key play. A chastity device is a symbol; chastity play is an act of surrender, discipline, and erotic curiosity all rolled into one. And when you think about it like that, it’s no wonder chastity is having a mainstream moment.  Celebrating National Kink Day means shining a light on the spectrum of interests that make up kink culture. Some gravitate toward high-gloss latex and rope suspensions, others to roleplay or spanking. And now we know there’s a growing wave of people who’d rather click a lock shut and see what happens when orgasm isn’t the end goal.  Curiosity wins, discovery wins, acceptance wins. National Kink Day in a nutshell, y'all. Embrace your Kinky side and enjoy 15% off any products from the CB-X Kink Boutique! Use code 2025KINKDAYDISCOUNT at checkout to unlock your exclusive discount. (offer valid 10/6 - 10/10/2025)

This Thursday, July 24th marks both International BDSM Day and FemDom Day, two cherished observances in the kink community that celebrate consensual power exchange in relationships. We get it, though. “BDSM” and “Female Led [Anything]” might sound intimidating to couples and individuals who consider themselves “vanilla,” or *gasp* – “normal”.  News flash! “Normal” is a myth! The truth is that many couples already practice elements of female-led dynamics without even realizing it. You included.  At CB-X, this topic hits close to home. Our very first chastity device, the CB-2000, was created by our original Founders, Frank and Dorris Miller. Back in 1998, the Millers were a married couple dealing with infidelity, and Doris had one condition for reconciliation: Frank would consensually agree to lock himself in a chastity cage. At the time, they had no knowledge of FLR communities or kink culture. They simply needed a unique solution to rebuild broken trust. What they created not only saved their marriage but became the foundation of what is now the world's best-selling chastity brand. (Hey! That’s us!) Now, first things first… What Is a Female Led Relationship? A Female Led Relationship (FLR) is simply a partnership where one partner takes the lead in decision-making and relationship dynamics. This isn't about domination or control. It’s about consensual power exchange that benefits both people. Think of it as redistributing responsibilities in a way that plays to each partner's strengths and desires. And for many couples, chastity play is a creative way to incorporate gamification into the relationship.  For couples exploring chastity, FLR often emerges naturally. When one partner holds the key, they often inherently take on a leadership role in the couple's intimate life. Why FLR Can Transform Your Relationship Real couples often report remarkable changes shortly after exploring the FLR dynamic. Partners often become more attentive, focused, and genuinely invested in their relationship. Instead of taking each other for granted, renewed appreciation and effort emerge. Many also discover that their relationship roles (AKA "traditional" gender roles) weren't actually serving them well. When one partner steps into a leadership role, it can eliminate decision fatigue, reduce conflicts, and create clearer expectations. The key-holding partner often reports feeling more desired and prioritized than they have in years. True Story #1:  "I was curious but reluctant at the beginning, being raised and educated in what was regarded as 'the traditional way' things should be. To his credit, he eased me gracefully and patiently into it. More importantly, he has proven to me how this benefits me while making him a better husband. I can say for both of us, things have never been better--better communication, sexual expression, intimacy, and so much more." 5 Tips for FLR/Female Led Relationship Beginners  Re-think your intentions. Don't approach this as "here's what I want." Frame it as "here's how this could benefit us both." Focus on improved communication, increased intimacy, and renewed focus on your partner's needs. Begin with mental commitment. Before introducing a chastity device, try "mental chastity" with no self-touching without permission. (Mental chastity means agreeing to abstain from self-pleasure based on honor and communication rather than physical barriers like a cock cage. This helps both partners understand the psychological shifts without added complexity.) Address the "hassle" factor. Some partners worry about the responsibility of key-holding. Emphasize that this isn't about creating more work; it's about having more control with less effort. "Lock it and forget it" until you decide otherwise.  Focus on mutual benefits. This isn't about one person serving another; it's about creating a dynamic where both partners get what they need. Increased attention, better communication, and enhanced intimacy benefit everyone involved. Remember - wearing a chastity cage is an amazing way to discover new penis pleasure techniques.  Small steps > drastic changes. Begin with short periods and simple agreements. Success builds confidence for both partners. Remember, you're establishing new patterns that need time to develop naturally. True story #2:  "My wife was unsure at first. We tried it for about 3 months. She wanted to stop because she felt it was too much work for her. I told her that she doesn't have to do more work. It's less. Lock it up until you want it. Just lock it and forget it. But we still took a few months break. After thinking about it and she noticing the difference in my behavior, we are back into chastity with much enthusiasm on both our parts." Your Relationship = Your Rules What works for one couple might not work for another, and that's perfectly acceptable. (Notice how we avoided the word normal there?) 😉 Couples who thrive with FLR dynamics share one thing in common: they communicate openly and adjust their approach based on what actually improves their relationship. As the saying goes, don't knock it until you've tried it. Jumping into BDSM play doesn't have to be an end goal. (But if it is, we've got your back.)  After all, someone once had to be the first person brave enough to try escargot, and look how that turned out for French cuisine. Just like Frank and Doris Miller discovered, even “vanilla” couples can find that a dash of spice and a pinch of creativity can reinvent or reinvigorate a relationship.  Your relationship deserves the same spirit of adventure. 

Color has been a long-standing language among kinksters for decades. Sometimes subliminal, sometimes more obvious, wearing specific colors in the kink community can speak directly to aspects of one's sexual preferences, desires, and even nuanced power dynamics.

Sissification encompasses a wide range of fantasies and lifestyle activities that often involve role-playing, power dynamics, and sometimes, humiliation.

The bottom line is that, if you’re going to purchase a cock cage and begin male chastity training, he must have a safeword.