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Color Psychology, But Make it Kinky

on May 24 2025
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    A style edit on the psychology of colors, and the BDSM gear that ties it all together.

    In the BDSM community, the color of someone’s kink gear can often represent much more than visual aesthetic or a passing trend. Color has been a long-standing language among kinksters for decades. Sometimes subliminal, sometimes more obvious, wearing specific colors in the kink community can speak directly to aspects of one's sexual preferences, desires, and even nuanced power dynamics. 

    For example, the Hanky/Handkerchief Code (AKA flagging or the Bandana Code), is a widely-recognized, long-standing system used to signal a spectrum of kinks and sexual interests through hanky color and pocket location. Consider it the older, kinky sibling to dopamine dressing (the idea of wearing what makes you feel good). Wearing a cream-colored bandana in the left pocket traditionally signaled an interest in cumming inside condoms, while wearing a cream-colored hanky in the right pocket signaled an interest in sucking cum out of condoms. If it exists, believe there is a hanky to match! Fisting? Yep. Armpit fetish? Yep. Tit torture, spanker, spankee? Yep, yep, yep. Color frameworks like this are all about skipping the small talk and getting down to business. The efficiency!

    Do you know what your cock cage color choice says about your identity? Keep reading for more color-fueled discoveries that go below the surface.

    Color Me Kinky

    Historically, the bondage category has been associated with dark tones like black and red, especially when bondage gear options were more limited. Over the last decade or so, the category has expanded and these days, the sky is the limit for radical self-expression through fetish apparel, bondage gear, and kinky accessories.   

    Wearing a meaningful or significant cock cage color underneath clothing can carry just as much weight as what’s visible; a private nod to identity, a promise or a vow, a ritual, or simply reserving what’s below for your Keyholder or Mistress. 

    The Ol’ Razzle Dazzle 

    Our product team takes great care in selecting the perfect colors, and our Guarded Galaxy collection of sparkly chastity cages is a testament to our approach to product development. Each color in the Guarded Galaxy Glitter Cock Cage Collection: Glam Rock Blue, Pink Twinkle, and Ultraviolet Purple were determined by voters in the CB-X community. This ensured that each color reflected the truest preferences of our most loyal supporters. (Hi! We love you.) For Pink Twinkle, we went the extra mile by developing our own proprietary blend of glitter particles to achieve this color, because it didn’t already exist. 💖

    In this blog, we’re mixing the color psychology of Blue, Pink, and Purple with product combinations and style inspiration from CB-X customer orders. Below, we share more about how the playful nature of pink, the luxurious mystery of purple, and the calm confidence of blue can reinforce themes of dominance, submission, and restraint. 

    Blue: Calm, Collected, Caged

    Typically viewed as a masculine color, blue is steady, reliable, and grounded. In the context of chastity and BDSM, it often symbolizes structure, emotional control, and a calm, obedient mindset. Blue might appeal to those who see their restraint as purposeful and even meditative. Add glitter to classic blue and you get a brilliant juxtaposition of bold visual appeal with composed energy. For some wearers, that contrast is the appeal, because glitter can soften the edge without stripping away the strength.

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    Pink: Powerfully Submissive

    In the chastity world, a pink cock cage can play both sides. It might offer the wearer a sense of affirmation and confidence, or serve as a deliberate tool for humiliation, depending on the dynamic at play. (Looking at you, sissy sluts!) It often symbolizes submissive surrender, the release of control, and embracing vulnerability. In the context of sissification, pink chastity cages can nurture feminized roles, and result in profound personal exploration and transformation. Going back to dopamine dressing, pink is highly potent in the psychological sense because of how it makes the wearer feel while reinforcing the submissive mindset.

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    Purple: Fluidity & Depth

    Long associated with power and royalty, purple holds a gender-fluid energy that can be a fitting choice for those who view chastity as more than physical restraint. Maybe this versatility is a big reason that purple has reigned supreme as the number one best-selling sex toy color for like, ever. A purple chastity device can signal deliberate control and erotic discipline, and might resonate especially with power bottoms or those who can balance submission with authority and self-mastery. 

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    Fifty Shades? As If!

    Color in chastity play isn’t just aesthetic. It carries emotional weight, signals intent, and reflects identity. As we’ve seen through both research and real-life style inspiration from the CB-X community, color becomes a meaningful part of the dynamic.

    While we don’t know each of you personally, we love seeing the individuality and creativity you infuse into your play. Matching colors will always look polished, but it's the unexpected combinations you choose that take us by surprise, and illuminate the beauty in our differences.  

    We see you choosing what resonates with you. If it feels good, lean in. If it feels true, even better. ✨

    Does your cock cage have a signature color? Share it with us in the comments below.

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